I like writing about’Relationships’ because it’s one of my favorite subjects. Honestly, today relationships have proven to be like the’changing of clothes’ every day. People love to change their partners every now and then. The gist of all is: ‘the changing times’. We as human beings have conformed to the practices of the world, and we swing by as the world does. But if you are not able to foster or nurture one relationship, then you aren’t likely to nurture the other. Though, there’s one exception in my view to what I just stated; it’s not to target those relationships that are abusive, where the sufferer female or male is physically or emotionally abused. We get to live life once, and it doesn’t imply that we cling to any relationship that’s torturous in nature.
After conducting a short research study about the topic, it is realized that different writers have made varying observations regarding this subject. Each writer expresses his/her own view as they perceive and define’relationship’.
Turn’on’ your Positive Psychology in Relationships
Author Carr in’Positive Psychology: The Science of Happiness and Human Strengths’ stated that positive psychology is linked to the positive emotions and affection in your relationship. When both the partners work through their conflicts, and sort them out by communicating respectfully and forgiving each other’s mistakes; then they tend to gain high levels of satisfaction in their relationship. This being one aspect, the other is the endurance and perseverance to work at your relationship. If you love and care about your partner then it’s obvious you will work towards sharing a positive relationship.
Quit seeking Perfection in your partner
The realization is important that we are human beings, and not one of us is perfect. Therefore, we can’t expect perfection in our spouse. There’ll be sure behaviours that may irritate, or there may be some weaknesses that are too hard to take, but the bottom line is you have to deal with those behaviours in a positive manner without humiliating or demeaning your spouse. As opposed to reacting impulsively to those behaviors, you can await the ideal time to talk to your partner about certain behaviors that seem annoying. The confrontational talk needs to be non-judgmental, so that your spouse is a good recipient to your concerns.
Overcome the Temptation
As we are living in a new era it is now easy to change partners or proceed without giving a thought to your relationship. The biggest temptation nowadays appears to be’gap-fillers’. Gap-fillers are those’so-called buddies’ who make an entry in your life at just the wrong time. When you face challenging times in your marriage or dating relationship, then it’s normal that you have a friend who acts as your partner replacement. He/She is filled with all the good talks, assurances and may even want you to think that life is worth living, so why live with a spouse you are not pleased with?
But if you think really deep, it can be analyzed or assessed that if you can’t live or put up with a single partner, then there isn’t any guarantee that you are able to develop a new partner. The beginning days of a new and rosy relationship may appear to be the best, but you don’t know when the identical relationship may turn to your own worst.
The best advice once your marriage or relationship is not working is to wait patiently and to give yourself and spouse the opportunity to work out whether it’s truly over, and for genuine reasons so that you don’t get an opportunity to repent in life for missing out on the very best.